Post Wedding Blues & Bliss

Six months ago my whole life changed for the
better when I said, “I do” to my best friend. And I can officially say I feel
married and “wife” has sunk in. To be honest, it seems like years ago that we
got married because we have been so busy merging our lives together and
creating our home. 

I’ll admit, and so will any of my close friends
and family, I had the post wedding day

blues like no other. It was especially hard for
me being that I work, breathe, sleep, and live weddings not only in my current
job of wedding insurance but also in my aspiration to be a wedding planner. For
almost a year and a half we had been looking forward to the big day and it was
literally gone in the blink of an eye. We came home from our St. Lucia
honeymoon to a brand new apartment that was filled with unpacked boxes
(remember we moved in only a few days before we left for the wedding) and
unwrapped wedding gifts. My dress was neatly hung in its garment bag, the top
tier of our wedding cake was wrapped in our freezer, and my bouquet was already
half dried. Our wedding was officially over and put away. I did not want to
accept that I was no longer a bride and my life had completely turned upside
down.

How someone could feel so incredibly happy to
finally be married but oh-so-overwhelmed with “the wedding is over” disappointment simply cannot be
described. I think we as a society focus so so SO much on the wedding day and forget that the day is just the
first day of marriage. Marriage is what we all should really be preparing for
as that is the beginning of your lifetime adventure. Why does society brush off
pre-marital counseling? I certainly did as I’m sure many others did too! My thoughts? “Excuse me, we are planning our
wedding and that itself should say we’re committed to each other. We do not
need that counseling stuff!” Am I alone in this thinking? I’m thinking not.
Wedding planning and pre-marital counseling should go hand in hand together.
Maybe had Sean and I gone through those motions my mind wouldn’t have been so consumed
with just the wedding day. (Don’t get me wrong, I’ve always known and been
excited to have THE best husband in the world!) I would have just been more prepared for life after cake tastings, vendor negotiations, and dress fittings!

My post wedding blues have faded and I’ve settled into my
new life. I’ve realized I have WAY too many credit cards when I started the fun
process of changing my last name! Heck, that was more than enough motivation to
pay them off and cut them up before our address changes again! Whew! Our
apartment has turned into a home, our home. We’ve got everything unpacked, put
in its place (a challenge with our one official and one unofficial closet!) and
furnished/decorated each room.We’ve learned each others quirks and accepted each others imperfections. We’re working on life that happens after the wedding and I LOVE IT! This Bride has turned Wife!                                       

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